Connection with a child is built on bonding experiences that build trust. In order to understand how to forge these experiences it is necessary to deconstruct how trust is built up, and why it can be difficult for children with trauma, including insecure attachment experiences, to offer parents the quick reassurance that they feel safe, loved, and secure. For children who feel insecure and afraid, the rejection of caregivers and authority figures is often a coping mechanism to avoid the pain of rejection. This habit needs to be unwound very slowly and carefully in order to change the identity of the child from one who feels unloved to one who feels and identified as loved. This class outlines how attachments are formed, what they look like when they are insecure, and outlines practical strategies for connection.